In a society with puritanical roots, sex is not a topic freely talked about. While sex is everywhere in our media and advertising, it is still a taboo topic for discussion. Few people can speak meaningfully about sex without making it a joke, and so myths perpetuate.
How can we be more fully present when it comes to the topic of sex? Sex therapists and sex advice columnists help to create safe spaces for authentic communication. They help us to see sex as normal behavior, rather than shadow behavior. Change happens slowly. When more people can talk seriously without dissociating, laughing nervously, or just running out of the room (Yes, I’ve done all of these before too) …. Only when we can have a meaningful and authentic conversation, then sexual behavior will no longer be a suppressed shadow behavior associated with trauma and violence.
Dan Savage’s column is now internationally syndicated. His podcast, Savage Love, is one of the most popular. Whether you are straight, gay, or anywhere in between, this video summarizes what he has learned from more than two decades as a sex advice columnist.